Ms Kahan, 26, posted her TikTok video as a joke, but the responses were serious. “People were saying, ‘How do I find these friends?’ or ‘How do you do it?’” she said. She takes an honest approach: “You have to find some kind of connection, like a friend of a friend,” she said.
Thinly disguised casual greetings can be suspicious for lucky summer home owners (or people with primary homes in summer-positive locations).
“When I post pictures from my house in the Hamptons, I now get messages from 10 to 12 different people saying, ‘Oh my gosh, let’s catch up’ or ‘I need to see you this summer.’ When can we meet?’” said a fashion entrepreneur who owns a seven-bedroom home in Sag Harbor.
The 39-year-old businesswoman, who asked that her name not be published for fear of offending the people she was speaking about, has lived in the Hamptons for three years and said the messages were becoming an annual occurrence. “I notice when people I haven’t heard from in six months text me all the time right before Memorial Day weekend,” she said.
He’s had more people reach out this year than ever before, and he thinks fears of an impending recession are a factor. “People are not spending as much money on travel,” she said. In fact, the Hamptons currently have twice as many homes available for rent as did it last year, as prospective tenants cut back. According to the US Travel Associationan industry group, demand for hotel rooms is below March 2019 levels for the first time in months (even if AAA is estimating an 11 percent increase in air travel over Memorial Day weekend compared to the equally hectic summer of last year; perhaps those travelers fly to stay with friends or relatives).
Some people with summer houses are finding ways to avoid playing host altogether.
In July 2020, Lindsay Tyrpien, 33, the creative director of an art gallery in SoHo, bought a 1920s-era farmhouse in Livingston Manor, New York, a quaint town about two hours upstate. . She and her wife, Magdalena Tyrpien, 34, a biotech executive in Manhattan, did a total renovation of the 1,200-square-foot space and decided to tear down the second bedroom entirely; instead they have a very large bedroom and office space. (The couple also rents the house.)
“We are both so busy in our professional lives that we appreciate being able to spend that time together,” Lindsay Tyrpien said. “It’s nice to go there and be alone and not even have the option to host.”