TikTok’s swinger community is burning with divorce drama

TikTok’s niche of swingers was rattled by drama between two couples—one of which claims to have kickstarted the platform’s swinging trend—whose very public marriage breakdowns have attracted hordes of internet onlookers.

SwingTok is an active community of swingers, or married couples who involve other people in their sex life. This side of TikTok posts adult-themed memes for like-minded people and makes heavy use of upside-down pineapple imagery, a symbol for swingers.

Videos posted to TikTok’s #SwingTok hashtag alone have racked up 1.5 billion views. Other tags have also attracted substantial view counts, including #swingerslifestyle (908 million) and #swingers (753 million).

This stock image depicts two men and two women embracing in a park. TikTok’s swinger community was rattled by drama involving four “SwingTok” influencers.
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Michigan-based couple Mark and Krystina Bolin were prominent SwingTok influencers. By their accounts, the husband-and-wife duo began swinging after Krystina Bolin had been unfaithful multiple times.

In a November YouTube video explaining their lifestyle, the Bolins said they were married for 16 years and have two teenage children who are aware and accepting of their parents’ lifestyle, though they “don’t bring swinging” into their home.

Krystina Bolin said: “We’re just here to teach everybody else about it, educate you guys, break the stigma and make it so that swinging is not so weird and—”

“Demonized,” Mark Bolin chimed in.

“Yeah, and people think that we’re just, like, sex addicts who just go to these sex parties, that’s not what it is,” Krystina Bolin said. “Our swinging life is, we love to have friends with benefits, that’s our favorite.”

According to screenshots from their now-defunct SwingTok.net website, Krystina Bolin credited herself with having “definitely started the swinging trend on TikTok.”

In August 2021, the Bolins were involved with another swinger couple named Matt and Misty, whose surnames are not public. The four soon began a polyamorous relationship and began posting swinger-themed content together as “KM3.”

Krystina Bolin filed for divorce from Mark Bolin this month, and divorce proceedings are also underway for Matt and Misty. The couples were subsequently inverted—Krystina Bolin paired up with Matt, while Mark Bolin is dating Misty.

Dubbed “KM3 chaos,” the drama saw very public developments chronicled by prolific social media posts and live broadcasts from all parties.

Users across a host of platforms soon became invested in the couples’ problems, with many dissecting their relationship dynamics and taking sides. Facebook groups dedicated to discussing the “KM3 chaos” racked up members in the thousands.

People who practice ethical non-monogamy—which includes swinging and polyamory—criticized the four for reportedly engaging in their relationships improperly and further stigmatizing the community. A number of TikTok users were introduced to SwingTok by way of KM3’s collapse.

In a video viewed over 417,000 times, TikToker @lizdamyl responded to a prompt asking about “one side of TikTok you’re not supposed to be on but you just stay on.”

“I’m on the swinger side of TikTok and things are getting crazy,” @lizdamyl said, before explaining the drama to her 90,000 followers.

The issue also spurred serious backlash and harassment against those involved and their family members, including unverified allegations of stolen valor against Matt, who said he is a Marine combat veteran.

Krystina Bolin, who makes her income from OnlyFans, saw her explicit subscribers-only content leaked. In a TikTok live, Bolin said she enlisted the help of a private investigator to track down her harassers, as well as notified OnlyFans and the FBI.

“People are screen recording and [OnlyFans], their legal team is currently tracking all your IP addresses as well,” Bolin said. “They are actually a billion dollar company, and what you’re doing is very illegal.

“You think I’m too lazy to come after you, I’m coming. And so is the FBI and [OnlyFans.]”

She later said the FBI and law enforcement did not pick her case up.

Krystina Bolin and Matt’s TikTok accounts were taken down, though Mark Bolin and Misty remain on the platform.

Newsweek has contacted Mark and Krystina Bolin for comment, but was unable to reach Misty or Matt.

While there has been some public friction between both couples, they also expressed being amicable for the sake of their children.

In a Friday TikTok live alongside Mark Bolin, Misty responded to rumors about her soon-to-be ex-husband Matt by refusing to “bash and badmouth” him.

“I’m sure there’s things I could say but I will never say, because I just can’t do that to somebody who has been my friend, my partner in life, my child’s father, I just won’t do it,” she said.

“And I’m sorry if that’s what you guys want, I’m not gonna do it.”

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