Saudi-led coalition in Yemen intercepts ballistic missile blamed on Houthis

Jun 16, 2020

The Saudi-led coalition in Yemen said today that it had intercepted ballistic missiles fired by the Houthi rebels, marking the latest foiled assault on Saudi Arabia. 

A spokesman for the coalition said the Iran-backed group launched the missile from Sa’dah in northwestern Yemen toward the southern Saudi region of Najran “in a deliberate attempt to target civilians and civilian objects.”

The Houthi group has fired a total of 313 missiles and 35 drones toward the kingdom since 2015, Col. Turki al-Maliki said in a statement carried by the Saudi Press Agency. 

The coalition also said it earlier intercepted several armed drones launched toward the southern Saudi city of Khamis Mushait. The Houthis claimed responsibility today for the drones, which a spokesperson said were targeting an airport and came in response to coalition airstrikes. 

The Arab world’s poorest country has been embroiled in civil war since 2014, when the Houthis took control of Yemen’s capital and captured large swaths of the country from pro-government forces. Saudi Arabia leads a Western-backed military coalition that intervened the following year to restore the internationally recognized government.  

A cease-fire designed to bring a pause in the fighting and allow humanitarians to focus on combating the coronavirus expired last month. Yemen has confirmed close to 900 cases of COVID-19, most recorded by the Aden-based government in the south. 

On Monday, the United Nations removed the Saudi-led coalition from its blacklist of countries violating children’s rights. In his annual report to the Security Council, UN Secretary-General Antonio Guterres wrote that the coalition killed or injured 222 children in Yemen last year, a drop from 729 the year before. The Houthis and the Yemeni government remain on the list and according to Guterres were responsible for the deaths of or injuries to 313 and 96 children, respectively. The report also said that responsibility for 482 child casualties could not be attributed and that 276 casualties “occurred during crossfire between various parties to the conflict.”



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A Mad Scramble to Stock Millions of Malaria Pills, Likely for Nothing

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Some versions of chloroquine are approved in the United States. Bayer’s was not. Top officials at Dr. Bright’s former agency, known as the Biomedical Advanced Research and Development Authority, or BARDA, were not enthusiastic about the donation; “in vitro,” or test tube, studies were not promising, they said.

“Not a lot of enthusiasm based on just vitro data,” Robert Johnson, an agency official, wrote in an email to a top aide to Dr. Robert Kadlec, the assistant secretary of health for preparedness and response. “Chloroquine has been shown to have in vitro effects on other microbes, but that has not panned out to clinical benefit.”

Dr. Kadlec and his aides, however, were insistent, the emails show. They wanted the chloroquine donation distributed widely as part of a clinical trial that would be sponsored by BARDA, with the National Institutes of Health providing the ethics panel, known as an “institutional review board,” overseeing the trial. At the same time, the technology giant Oracle was developing a platform that, the White House hoped, could serve as a vehicle for doctors to enter data about the drug.

On March 23, the F.D.A.’s top lawyer, Stacy Amin, dashed off an urgent email.

“Can we please start moving forward on BARDA sponsoring the chloroquine I.N.D.,” she wrote, referring to an “investigational new drug” application, documents that accompany a clinical trial. “The president is announcing this tonight and I believe the W.H. would like it set up by tomorrow with data to flow into the Oracle platform,” she added, referring to the White House.

By that time, other companies had donated tens of millions of tablets of hydroxychloroquine, which is approved in the United States and often used to treat lupus, rheumatoid arthritis and other autoimmune disorders, as well as for malaria prevention.

But top F.D.A. officials, as well as Dr. Fauci, took a dim view of the clinical trial idea — and especially the Oracle platform, which they viewed as unworkable, according to three people involved in the decision-making. Dr. Bright, too, was balking; if the drugs had to be accepted into the national stockpile, he wanted their distribution tightly controlled.

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Brazil coronavirus cases hit daily record: Live updates

Hello and welcome to Al Jazeera’s continuing coverage of the coronavirus pandemic. I’m Kate Mayberry in Kuala Lumpur.

  • Brazil has recorded a record 34,918 daily cases of coronavirus, on the same day government officials said the outbreak was under control.
  • The WHO has welcomes the findings of a University of Oxford study that found dexamethasone, a widely available steroid, helped save the lives of people with severe COVID-19. 
  • More than 8.1 million people have been confirmed to have the coronavirus around the world. Nearly four million have recovered, while more than 440,000 have died, according to data compiled by Johns Hopkins University. The US has the most cases and deaths, followed by Brazil.

Here are the latest updates:

Wednesday, June 17

00:00 GMT – Brazil cases at daily record, official claims crisis ‘managed’ 

Brazil has reported a record 34,918 new coronavirus cases, on the same day that one of the senior officials leading the country’s response to the crisis claimed the outbreak was under control.

Brazil also registered 1,282 COVID-19 deaths bringing confirmed fatalities to 45,241.

Walter Braga Netto, the head of the office of the president’s chief of staff and one of the top officials handling the crisis, said it was under control.

“There is a crisis, we sympathise with bereaved families, but it is managed,” Braga Netto told a webinar organised by the Commercial Association of Rio de Janeiro.

Braga Netto based his claim on deaths-per-million-people, which suggested the country was doing better than many European nations, saying he “was trying to convey a message of optimism in the management of the crisis”.

But Carissa Etienne, who is the director of the Pan American Health Organization (PAHO) said in a video briefing from Washington that Brazil is a major concern. 

“We are not seeing transmission slowing down” in Brazil, Etienne said.

Latin America’s largest country accounts for about a quarter of the roughly four million coronavirus cases in the Americas and nearly 25 percent of the deaths, she said.

23:30 GMT – WHO welcomes study findings on steroid treatment

The WHO has welcomed the findings of a “breakthrough” study on a steroid treatment for people suffering from severe cases of COVID-19.

“This is the first treatment to be shown to reduce mortality in patients with COVID-19 requiring oxygen or ventilator support,” Tedros Adhanom Ghebreyesus, WHO director-general, said in a statement. “This is great news.”

The researchers shared initial insights about the results of the trial with WHO, which will update its clinical guidance on how and when the drug should be used in COVID-19.

Dexamethasone is a steroid that has been used since the 1960s to reduce inflammation in a range of conditions, including inflammatory disorders and certain cancers.

Read all the updates from yesterday (June 16) here.


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Republicans Signal Narrow Policing Overhaul as Trump Signs Limited Order

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Later, at a Senate hearing, Republicans and Democrats grappled with the scope of the changes.

Senator John Cornyn, Republican of Texas, pressed witnesses on their assertions about systemic racism in policing, asking at one point, “Do you believe that basically all Americans are racist?”

Vanita Gupta, the president and chief executive of the Leadership Conference on Civil and Human Rights, responded, “I think we all have implicit bias and racial bias, yes I do,” eliciting a “wow” from Mr. Cornyn.

“I think that we are an amazing country that strives to be better every single day,” Ms. Gupta added. “It’s why I went into government, to make a more perfect union.”

Mr. Cornyn replied, “You lost me when you want to take the acts of a few misguided, perhaps malicious, individuals and ascribe that to all Americans.”

In other moments, Republicans appeared to be weighing how far to go with their proposal.

S. Lee Merritt, a lawyer for the family of Ahmaud Arbery, a black man from Georgia who was killed while jogging after being chased by armed white residents, explained the challenges faced by the families he represents because of qualified immunity, which shields police officers from lawsuits.

The bill proposed by Democrats would change the doctrine, but Mr. Scott has ruled out doing so. After Mr. Merritt’s testimony, Senator Cory Booker, Democrat of New Jersey, urged Republicans to consider modifications to guarantee consequences for misconduct.

“I wrote it down,” said Senator Lindsey Graham, Republican of South Carolina and the chairman of the Senate Judiciary Committee.

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Arizona is burning: Bush Fire in Tonto National Forest near Phoenix, 3 others rage in triple-digit temperatures

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Four major wildfires were burning in triple-digit temperatures across Arizona on Monday, torching about 125,000 acres and forcing evacuations for some residents near the Tonto and Kaibab national forests.

The Bush Fire, the largest of the blazes, swelled an additional 27,000 acres northeast of Phoenix on Tuesday, with 0% containment, forcing another round of evacuations 

Hot and dry temperatures with low humidity levels are forecast through the week, creating conditions that are for ripe for quick fire growth. 

Fire crews were also working to contain wildfires in other corners of the state.

Hot, hot, hot: ‘Megadrought’ emerging in the western US might be worse than any in 1,200 years

The Mangum Fire has burned close to 30,000 acres with 3% containment just north of the Grand Canyon’s North Rim.

Near Tucson, firefighters were able to secure 30% containment of the 16,000-acre Bighorn Fire, which was ignited by a lightning strike in the Santa Catalina Mountains.

The Bringham Fire, which has burned for 10 days in the Apache-Sitgreaves National Forest, had charred 14,625 acres as of Tuesday afternoon, with 5% containment.

Bush Fire

The Bush Fire, which spread quickly over the weekend due to hot and dry conditions,  had grown to approximately 64,513 acres as of Tuesday morning in the Tonto National Forest, prompting evacuations and multiple road closures.

Heavy smoke was expected to continue drifting over the Roosevelt Lake and Tonto Basin areas. The glowing lights of the flames could be seen from communities in Fountain Hills, according to pictures and worried comments on social media.

Officials said Monday that no structures had been damaged in the Bush Fire, and that firefighters are working to protect power lines and private property from the flames.

The Maricopa County Sheriff’s Office issued evacuation orders for the Sunflower and Apache Lake areas on Tuesday after Gila County evacuated communities in Tonto Basin and Punkin Center on Monday.

The human-caused fire remains under investigation.

Mangum Fire

The Mangum Fire was 3% contained and burning 29,689 acres in the Kaibab National Forest as of Tuesday morning. Officials added that windy conditions would make firefighting efforts difficult throughout the day.

The fire is concentrated about nine miles southwest of the campsites and hotel near the small unincorporated community of Jacob Lake. The Coconino County Sheriff’s Office evacuated approximately 280 people from the Jacob Lake recreational area, according to the Arizona Emergency Information Network.

The Arizona Department of Transportation closed SR 89A between Fredonia and the Cliff Dwellers roadside stop. SR 67 is also closed between Jacob Lake and the North Rim in the Grand Canyon National Park.

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Firefighters took advantage of humid conditions on Tuesday to increase containment of the Bighorn Fire in the Santa Catalina Mountains to 30% after an infrared flight Monday night measured the fire at approximately 15,805 acres, according to the Southwest Coordination Center. 

The Arizona Emergency Information Network reported three minor heat-related injuries due to the Bighorn Fire. No property had been damaged, but officials estimated 8,380 structures were threatened.

The lightning-caused wildfire has been burning through the steep and rugged terrain of the Coronado National Forest since June 5. Officials said Tuesday they are working to stop the fire’s momentum near Romero Pass, clearing timber, brush and other fire fuel to “create solid, defensible space.”

Bringham Fire

The Bringham Fire has burned 14,625 acres in the Apache-Sitgreaves National Forest and was 5% contained as of Tuesday. Officials said the fire’s growth had recently slowed due to lower temperatures and cloud cover.

The Bringham Fire, which was ignited by lightning on June 6,is concentrated in the Clifton Ranger District in southeastern Arizona.

Contributing: Helena Wegner and Perry Vandell, The Arizona Republic.

Reach the reporter at Helen.Wieffering@arizonarepublic.com or on Twitter @helenwieffering.

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Friends say teen killed in shopping centre brawl was an ‘innocent boy’

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Nine people have spent the night in custody after the fatal stabbing and a second brawl broke which broke out at the scene hours later.

Solomone’s friend, 16-year-old Veni Atonio, went to the scene to pray on Wednesday morning.

“I don’t know why they had to take an innocent boy,” he said.

“I don’t know why this generation is all about … shivs, killing each other, when they don’t know how the parents will feel. It’s not a parents job to bury their own children.”

Veni remembered his school mate fondly. “With that kind of smile that man has, it’s unforgettable. We are just going to miss him so much.

“It was a stupid act. They should have done something else instead of hanging knives and bats.

“Sometimes I keep telling myself it was me instead of him.”

Veni said he heard the attackers might have been trying to get to someone else, because of something said on social media.

Police and security guards were patrolling the gates of Victoria University Secondary College in St Albans on Wednesday morning where Solomone was a student.

A police officer at the gates of Victoria University Secondary College in St Albans on Wednesday morning.Credit:Eddie Jim

A staff member locked the front gates about 9.30am and a security guard put up a sign advising people to call the school if they need access to the grounds.

About the same time, friends and strangers were laying flowers at the scene and paying tribute to the young teenager.

Police initially reported Solomone was 16 years old, but confirmed on Wednesday that he was 15.

The group that attacked Solomone ran off after the stabbing, but six were arrested on nearby Billingham Road a short time later. They are yet to be charged.

The scene of the Deer Park stabbing on Tuesday night.

The scene of the Deer Park stabbing on Tuesday night.Credit:AAP

Foa Galuega, a family friend of Solomone, said he was a “good kid”.

“He goes to church. He comes from a good family, a humble family. It’s just so unfortunate this has happened to him,” Ms Galuega said.

She said the fight broke out over an online conflict.

“I think it’s all got to do with social media and bullying and things that they say online and they came after him,” she said.

Another friend said he tried to intervene in the fight. “We came and pushed them off and then it was too late because [Solomone] already got stabbed,” the friend said.

Bystanders told Nine they applied pressure to the boy’s wounds before an ambulance arrived.

Paramedics treated Solomone at the scene, but he could not be resuscitated.

Paramedics at the scene when a teen was stabbed on Tuesday afternoon.

Paramedics at the scene when a teen was stabbed on Tuesday afternoon.Credit:Nine

Hours later, a fight broke out at the scene involving about 30 people.

Footage of the second brawl posted on social media shows people running into the taped-off crime scene about 8pm.

A person can be heard in the footage shouting, “I’ll kill you” while bystanders yell “Stop”.

A police officer was taken to hospital for minor injuries and another man was treated for a cut to the head.

Police outside Brimbank Shopping Centre on Tuesday afternoon.

Police outside Brimbank Shopping Centre on Tuesday afternoon.Credit:Nine News Melbourne

Three teenage boys were arrested at the scene and interviewed by police.

A 15-year-old Sunshine boy and a 17-year-old Point Cook boy were released pending summons for assault-related offences.

A 15-year-old Hoppers Crossing boy was interviewed and released.

Homicide detectives are investigating.

Anyone with information is urged to contact Crime Stoppers on 1800 333 000 or make a confidential report at www.crimestoppersvic.com.au.

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How to beat coronavirus on the sausage frontline

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Since the pandemic started, this company has been feeding sausages to the nation while keeping Covid-19 at bay. How?

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Mamata to skip PM meet, govt says her name missing from list of speakers

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By: Express News Service | Kolkata |

Published: June 17, 2020 6:23:30 am





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West Bengal Chief Minister Mamata Banerjee will skip the virtual meeting on coronavirus situation with Prime Minister Narendra Modi on Wednesday after it was found that her name was missing from the list of speakers. Instead of her, Chief Secretary Rajiva Sinha will attend the meeting, state secretariat sources said on Tuesday.

Meanwhile, the Chief Minister will hold a video conference meeting with state officials to review the Covid-19 situation and Amphan relief work in the state.

The video conference will be held at 3 pm on Wednesday, a day after the PM had already held a meeting with chief ministers and Lt Governors of 21 states and Union Territories. During Tuesday’s meeting, Modi said one laxity could undo what had been achieved in the fight against Covid-19 and urged people not to lower their guard against the killer virus.

A senior official of the state secretariat said, “On Wednesday, chief ministers of Maharashtra, Tamil Nadu, Uttar Pradesh, Karnataka, Bihar and Telengana have been offered the opportunity to speak during the meeting. But our CM’s name did not feature in the list. So, our chief minister felt humiliated and decided not to attend the meeting.”

Terming it as an “insult for the people of West Bengal”, the Trinamool Congress hit out at the Modi government accusing the Centre of trying to silence Banerjee’s voice.

Bengal Education Minister Partha Chatterjee and senior TMC leader tweeted, “The Centre has once again humiliated the people of Bengal and decided to silence Mamata Banerjee. The consultation in the name of video conferences is a mere hogwash if the Chief Ministers aren’t allowed to put forth their concerns.”

Expressing concerns, TMC MP Kakoli Ghosh Dastidar echoed Chatterjee. “The Centre should explain why is it so averse to the concerns of the people of Bengal, as we face this unprecedented crisis, which should’ve been fought together. Why would you call our hon’ble CM for a VC, if you fear her so much that you can’t even let her speak,” she tweeted.

Senior TMC leader and former Union rail minister Dinesh Trivedi said the Centre was worried that the CM would expose the Modi government’s failure on the Covid-19 front. “It seems the Centre’s so worried about exposing itself to Mamata Banerjee’s constructive criticism on Covid-19 response that our hon’ble CM’s been reduced to just a mute spectator for the latest round of VCs with the PM. People of Bengal won’t forgive this!”

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Destruction of Border Office Unlikely to be Last Provocation by North Korea

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North Korea’s destruction of a landmark liaison office with South Korea Tuesday is likely only the first of many steps Pyongyang can take to signal impatience with Seoul and its ally Washington, analysts said.

The office, built during a warming phase in inter-Korean relations in 2018, was destroyed in a “terrific explosion,” North Korea’s state-run KCNA reported, days after the country said it was cutting all communications with Seoul over anti-Pyongyang leaflets sent by balloon from the South.

KCNA said the blast was “corresponding to the mindset of the enraged people to surely force human scum and those, who have sheltered the scum, to pay dearly for their crimes,” referring to North Korean refugees and defectors now residing in the South.

Balloons criticizing Kim Jong Un and his regime sent by activists and defectors were the target of bellicose statements from Kim Yo Jong, Kim’s sister and the country’s propaganda chief, as well as officially staged anti-South Korean rallies in North Korea.

But Tuesday’s destruction of the liaison office, which was located inside North Korea, north of the Demilitarized Zone separating the two Koreas, came despite South Korean President Moon Jae-in’s efforts to stop the leaflets with criminal complaints and license cancellations in the hopes of preserving engagement with Pyongyang.

“Blowing up the North-South Liaison Office conveys Kim Jong Un’s graphic rejection of President Moon’s attempts at rapprochement. It is also a reminder to the United States that North Korea cannot be ignored,” said former Assistant Secretary of State for East Asian and Pacific Affairs Daniel Russel, in a statement released by the Asia Society.

Pyongyang had hoped that engaging with Seoul and Washington over the past few years would bring relief from U.N. and U.S. sanctions aimed at depriving Pyongyang of cash and resources that could be funneled into its nuclear and missile programs.

But after Kim Jong Un held a series of summits with U.S. President Donald Trump and with Moon, sanctions remain in place, with Washington insisting Pyongyang must first take steps to give up its nuclear weapons.

“Ramping up pressure through escalating provocations is how Kim makes the point that without sanctions relief, sooner or later he will also blow up Trump’s claim to have ‘ended the threat from North Korea,” said Russel.

South vows strong response

World leaders expressed dismay at the blow to peaceful inter-Korean relations.

“The Secretary-General is concerned by the latest developments on the Korean Peninsula,” a U.N. spokesperson told RFA’s Korean Service.

“The Secretary-General calls for the resumption of inter-Korean dialogue leading to peaceful solutions that benefit peace and prosperity for all,” the spokesperson added.

The European Union expressed deep regret and told RFA the severance of communication lines was “unacceptable,” while the UK called it “a troubling step,” and Germany said it was “concerned about North Korea’s steps towards escalation.”

South Korea put the blame on North Korea.

“The government makes clear that all responsibility caused by this rests totally with the North Korean side,” the South Korean National Security Council said in a statement.

“We sternly warn that if North Korea takes steps further aggravating the situation, we will respond strongly.”

Pyongyang’s next provocation

A South Korean expert predicted that North Korea’s next move will be to cancel the inter-Korean Comprehensive Military Agreement, a September 2019 pact to reduce military tensions and prevent accidental clashes.

“[We] believe that Kim Yo Jong, the First Deputy Director of the Workers’ Party of Korea will quickly move on the next step—terminating the 9.19 inter-Korean military agreement,” Park Won Gon of Handong University told RFA.

Cheong Seong-chang of the Sejong Institute said Pyongyang likely would next dismantle the Kaesong Industrial complex, which operated from 2004 until it was closed amid tensions in 2016, or try to use the factories where South Korean firms employed North Korean workers for military purposes.

North Korea now has no option but to continue to provoke the South, as quickly returning to negotiations would be a sign of weakness to its people, according to the Choi Kang of the Asan Institute for Policy Studies in Seoul.

Choi told RFA that now that the North Korean public has been made aware of the fate of the liaison office, a policy reversal would be impossible.

“If it has only appeared in the external propaganda media, it is possible to change the direction. But it is impossible to change the policy in one day because it has been published in [North Korea’s official] newspaper and the North Koreans have heard about it,” Choi said.

“I think the current situation will last quite a long time.”

Shore up alliance with U.S.

Several U.S.-based experts told RFA that the best response to North Korea’s latest actions and threats would be for the United States to beef up cooperation with South Korea.

“The U.S. and South Korean governments should be careful not to overreact to North Korea’s dramatic efforts to escalate tensions and increase leverage,” Frank Aum of the United States Institute of Peace told RFA.

“Unfortunately, South Korea is in a difficult position and stuck between wanting to advance inter-Korean relations but not creating fissures in the US-ROK Alliance.  The Alliance will need to maintain strong military readiness and deterrence and continue to warn North Korea against increasing tensions on the Peninsula,” said Aum.

Under President Trump, Washington has seen a weakening in its alliances all over the world, and this trend must be reversed to deal with North Kore, said The RAND Corporation’s Soo Kim.

“The U.S. should be strengthening its alliance with South Korea. We see that there are fissures within the alliance with South Korea and also with other countries around the world,” Kim told RFA.

“Whatever leverage that the United States had through alliances and even through maintaining our principles is starting to wear away, and North Korea has been taking advantage of those opportunities,” she said.

David Maxwell of the Foundation for Defense of Democracies said North Korea’s recent belligerence “is not simply about testing the alliance.  It is about driving a wedge in the alliance and splitting it altogether.”

“The proper response is to first, increase ROK-US alliance readiness and second, ensure the protection of the escapees/defectors who have been threatened by the Kim family regime,” Maxwell said.

Analyst Ken Gause of CNA said “there’s not much we can do” other than seek dialogue with North Korea.

“If we want to solve the issue of North Korea, you need to engage Pyongyang. That means the U.S. has to take the lead and make appropriate concessions to bring North Korea back to the negotiating table,” Gause told RFA.

Reported by Albert Hong, Hee Jung Yang, Seung Wook Hong and Kyung Ha Rhee for RFA’s Korean Service. Translated by Leejin Jun.



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4 parenting tips to break the negativity loop – Harvard Health Blog

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“It’s a beautiful day outside,” you say, smiling. Your son replies, “It’s supposed to rain later.” You share, “That game was fun!” Your daughter adds, “I messed up one of my turns.”

If you find that your child tends to channel Eeyore from Winnie-the-Pooh and has difficulty seeing some of the bright moments in a day, below are some ways to help them interrupt a negativity loop. The first tip works well for all ages. Choose the other tools depending on whether your children are younger or older.

Start by validating emotions

Parents have a lot of wisdom to share with their children, and their advice often is filled with a lot of logic. Unfortunately, that logic tends to backfire when shared with someone experiencing an unhappy emotion, and can make the emotion even stronger. Both children and adults need to feel heard before their ears can open up and hear what else you have to say, so try to validate first before you try to help children appreciate positive aspects of a situation.

Validation allows us all to feel heard. You are not agreeing or disagreeing with the emotion; you’re showing that you see it. For example, if your daughter comes home sulking after scoring two goals in soccer and missing the final one, you might have the urge to say, “Why are you so sad? You scored two goals and looked like you were having so much fun while playing!” Your intention is kind, yet does not match your daughter’s experience. Instead, try reflecting how she is feeling by saying, “You’re disappointed that you didn’t make that final shot.” This acknowledges that your daughter is disappointed without agreeing or disagreeing with her.

Sometimes, it’s enough to leave it at that. When you think it’s important to have your daughter see another side of a situation, remember to use the conjunction “and” instead of “but” so you don’t negate or erase your validation. In this example, you could say, “You’re disappointed that you didn’t make that final shot, and I am really proud of you for trying your best for the whole game.”

Alternatively, you could add a question to help your daughter discover positive aspects of the experience herself. In this case, you could say, “You’re disappointed that you didn’t make that final shot, and I wonder if there were any parts of the game that you enjoyed?”

A few more tips:

  • Say, “You’re [insert emotion here] because…” Some examples of emotion words include sad, angry, worried, disappointed, embarrassed, disgusted, jealous, guilty, and surprised. Try to be as specific as possible. For example, “Upset,” could be a mixture of emotions, so identify which ones, such as sadness and/or anger, might be at play.
  • Try to avoid, “I understand that you’re feeling…” or “I know that you’re feeling…” As children get older, it will be developmentally on target for them to think that you could not possibly know what their experiences are like, and make you feel like you’ve entered a land mine by trying to relate to them.
  • Instead, offer a validation tentatively, “You seem…” or “I wonder if you were…”

Reflect on positive events

  • Younger children (under 8) may enjoy the High-Low Game, which helps them balance out negative experience reflections with positive ones. You can use the start of dinner time each night to have each family member share one high or positive experience in the day and one low or negative experience in the day. You even can have your son start off by sharing the low before the high, so that he ends on a high note. This is a way to hear about everyone’s day and see how your son views his daily experiences.
  • Older children (8 and up) may prefer a positive events diary. If your son walks around in life as though wearing those sunglasses from the ‘80s that look like window blinds and only seem to let in the negative events of each day, try having him write down three positive experiences he had at the end of each day. Not only can this help him realize that his day was not all bad, it also can help him improve his mood.

Foster gratitude

  • Younger children (under 8) may like playing this game during dinner. Have everyone practice identifying something for which they’re grateful that day. Practicing gratitude in this way can create a more positive tone at meals, and maybe — just maybe — you might even hear that your son is grateful for the meal you just prepared!
  • Older children (8 and up) could try a daily gratitude log, and you can set the tone for doing this by writing in your journal each day, too. It can be a slippery slope once someone starts focusing on all the things going wrong that day. Fostering gratitude, an appreciation of experiences, people, or things that are at least partially outside of oneself or one’s own doing, can help your daughter form a different and more positive relationship with aspects of her day, and research has shown that gratitude can help improve one’s mood. Have your daughter take a step back and remind herself of a few things for which she’s grateful each day. She can use prompts, such as “Someone/Something I was grateful for today was…” to get her started.

The takeaways

When you are concerned that your child reacts more like Eeyore than like Tigger, remember that your child needs to feel heard before he can see another perspective. Validate first, and then you can help your child consider all aspects, both positive and negative ones.

If you find that your child remains stuck in a negativity loop and starts to show signs of depression, ask your child’s pediatrician for a referral for therapy, such as cognitive behavioral therapy, so that just like Eeyore, your child can learn tools to look for sunshine.

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